My Husband Never Listens To Me - What Not To Do!

A common complaint from wives is "my husband never listens to me". Perhaps this is true or perhaps this is just your perception. Either way, if your feeling like your not being heard, it's frustrating. And your first instinct is to talk...more and more and more!

When learning how to make your husband listen to you, the most important thing is to understand what you should never do. The following tactics are things you may want to do, but trust me, these will only drive your husband further away!

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Don't Nag Or Hound Him

If you feel like your husband is not listening to you, you will try to get him to listen by force. This generally means cornering him, like in the car, and relentlessly nagging him. He's got no where to go, but he's not going to listen either.

What To Try Instead

Wait until he's not doing anything else. Don't interrupt his work or try to initiate a conversation while he's watching a ball game. Talk to him when he's open to a conversation.

Don't Repeat Yourself

If your not heard the first time, you feel like you have to repeat yourself. Again and again and again...

Women try to make men understand. Wives try to explain their feelings one way or another. And if your husband does not listen the first time, then you keep trying. But this tactic does not work. If he's not open to listening to you, it does not matter how you say it. He won't get it!

What to Try Instead

This old technique actually works. Take the "You" out of the conversation. Instead of saying "You always...", start saying "I feel angry when you....". This takes the attack out of the conversation. It turns it from a verbal debate into a conversation.

Talk 80% Less

Women like to talk. In fact, we talk incessantly about every topic. We analyze, rehash, ponder, strategize, etc. When it comes to talking, we are an entirely different breed than men.

When you make a conscious decision to talk 80% less, people start to listen. When you choose your words wisely instead of rambling on, your husband will start taking notice. Now this does not mean that you stop having conversations with your husband on everyday topics like politics, your children or what American Idol contestant you like best.

This means that when it comes to topics that you truly care about, you say what you mean and mean what you say. Make it concise and to the point. Talking 80% less is actually liberating once you get the hang of it!

Start Understanding What Your Husband Wants

"My husband never listens to me" is one of the biggest complaints wives have. We all feel like our husbands are not paying attention to us at some point or another. Sometimes we just need a new way to communicate and sometimes the lack of communication is a symptom of bigger problems.

Either way, there are steps you can implement today to have better communication in your marriage.

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Are you tired of living in a relationship in which you feel neglected? Many married women find themselves feeling alone and rejected by their husbands. If you feel taken for granted, there’s a way to change that now. Don’t spend another day wishing your marriage was different. If you want your husband to treat you differently, make it happen!

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