Should You Forgive a Cheating Husband? How to Get Past His Affair

Should you forgive a cheating husband? Perhaps your friends and family members are telling you that you should divorce the cheating loser, but no one can make this decision except you. Only you know what is best for you. Don't be pressured to make the decision until you are ready.

You do have choices. Although you may feel that even if you wanted to stay married after an affair, that you could never forgive his infidelity. Here are the choices that this situation has put you in and when you take a look at the big picture, you will be able to make the best decision for you.

Choice #1 - Get Divorced

It's a simple answer to a very complex problem. Getting divorced is an easy thing to say and you could have already said it to your husband in the heat of the moment. When your mad, hurt, angry and sad, you can easily believe that divorce is what is best for you.

No one would blame you and you certainly have a good reason. And if you know for sure that you will never get past your husband's betrayal, you don't love him and you want a new life, divorce could be the answer for you.

Choice #2 - Pretend It Never Happened

This is probably the simplest choice. Living in Denial World can be easy and pretending nothing ever happened may seem like the best choice. Did your husband swear he was sorry and it would never happen again? Did your husband beg you to stay with him, but he did not want to talk about it?

This is certainly the best answer for a husband who wants to stay married. But pretending only puts a band-aid on a gaping wound. You have been betrayed and are in agonizing pain. You may be able to cover it up at times, but it will always show up and never go away.

Of all your choices, this is the worst one. Easy is not right and you will never get past your husband's infidelity until you forgive him and move on.

Choice #3 - Learn How to Move Past Your Husband's Affair

This is not an easy path. I could not be honest and say it would be a simple matter of deciding to forgive him and rebuild your relationship. You have been betrayed and you will have obsessive thoughts about the other woman. Your self-esteem has been crushed and you question everything about yourself. You don't trust your husband and don't know if you ever will.

Should you forgive a cheating husband? Rebuilding your relationship takes work and your husband will have to want to save your marriage as well. But there is help for women like you who have been the victim of infidelity. If you do chose to stay with your husband, forgive and move on, you will need support.

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